Christian leader, public speaker, and author Charles Colson wrote an article in which he shared his personal experience with the 'dark night of the soul' ("My Soul's Dark Night", Christianity Today with Anne Morse, 4/12/2006). He asks, "What happens when you have relied on this intimacy [with God] and the day comes when God seems distant? What happens in the dark night of the soul?"
The year 2005 included various trials for Colson including his son's diagnosis of bone cancer, his daughter's diagnosis of melanoma, and his wife's major knee surgery. He writes, "I walked around at night, asking God why He would allow this. Alone, shaken, fearful, I longed for the closeness with God I had experienced even in the darkest days of prison."
He notes that the contemporary Christian culture did not prepare him for this struggle. And he, as I do, suspects that the dark night of the soul is something which many Christians "experience but fear to admit because of the expectations we create."
Colson also writes that Christians "must rely on more than cheerful tunes, easy answers, and happy smiles."
Is there something more than the mask of happy smiles that many of us His followers hide behind? We can look to Jesus in His hour of agony and see something more than songs and smiles. In the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus "began to be deeply distressed and troubled. 'My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death', He said." (Mark 14:33-34). He "prayed that if possible the hour might pass from Him. 'Abba, Father,' He said, everything is possible for you. Take this cup from me. Yet not what I will, but what you will.'" (35-36). Jesus obeyed God the Father, but He didn't do it with a fake smile. He was honest with His Father about the pain, difficulty, and struggle that were involved. "For the joy set before Him [He] endured the cross" (Hebrews 12:3). It seems that Christ's joy was mixed with the reality of sorrow as well. As Isaiah says, Jesus was, "a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief" (Isaiah 53:3).
Is there something more than the mask of happy smiles that many of us His followers hide behind? We can look to Jesus in His hour of agony and see something more than songs and smiles. In the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus "began to be deeply distressed and troubled. 'My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death', He said." (Mark 14:33-34). He "prayed that if possible the hour might pass from Him. 'Abba, Father,' He said, everything is possible for you. Take this cup from me. Yet not what I will, but what you will.'" (35-36). Jesus obeyed God the Father, but He didn't do it with a fake smile. He was honest with His Father about the pain, difficulty, and struggle that were involved. "For the joy set before Him [He] endured the cross" (Hebrews 12:3). It seems that Christ's joy was mixed with the reality of sorrow as well. As Isaiah says, Jesus was, "a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief" (Isaiah 53:3).
Learning to be real and honest with God, myself, and with others was a difficult but critical part of my making it through my dark nights. I am learning to walk with joy despite difficult circumstances because I have so often experienced the joy of God's power perfected in my weaknesses, but I also feel the freedom to be honest about the very real pain that there is in the darkness.